For Professionals Serving Grieving Children

Pittsburgh region

Photographs of the Site

Centrally located in downtown Pittsburgh, the Highmark Caring Place in southwestern Pennsylvania opened its doors in December, 1997. The program itself began more than a year earlier, with the first groups meeting in mid-1996.

Southwestern PA Front

The Caring Place is a safe place with safe people where grieving children and families come together to find hope.

Grieving families join other families at the Caring Place so that children of all ages, as well as adults, can meet together with their peers who have also experienced a death. Fifteen to 20 families come together for ten meetings every other week over four or five months.

Families
Community

Support services for the families, along with dinner, are provided at no cost to the families. The Caring Place is supported by community contributions, matched dollar for dollar by Highmark Blue Shield.

Teens meet together with their peers, and with trained adult volunteers, to share together their memories, their feelings and their experiences.

Teens
Middle-school Kids

Traveling their roads of grief together, middle-school-age children gather for fun times and deep times, able to laugh together and cry together after they've built trust in each other.

Young-school-age children are encouraged by trained adult volunteers to find many ways to express their grief, from art, puppets, and telling stories, to writing on the wall-boards and sharing photographs of the person who died.

Kids
More Kids

All members of a family come to the Caring Place, including the youngest. Here, some of the young ones help Sheena with the Pledge that begins every meeting: "I am here for you. You are here for me. We are here for each other."

Parents and guardians of the children who come also attend, sharing their own grief with one another, as well as the ups and downs of living as a single parent or holding the household together after a child has died.

Adults
Air Hockey

Children and adults enjoy themselves in the Family Activities Room, finding fun and laughter in the midst of grief.

The Expressions Room is a safe place within which children can express a very normal side of grief-anger over the death of a loved one.

Expression Room

"It is only natural that we and our children find many things hard to talk about.

But anything human is mentionable and anything mentionable can be manageable.

The mentioning can be difficult, and the managing too, but both can be done if we're surrounded by love and trust."

Fred Rogers,
Honorary Chairman, Caring Foundation
from 1985 until his death in 2003